We are under attack. Constant attack. From media. From society. From strangers and even from well-meaning (hopefully) friends and family. And we can even be under constant attack from ourselves.
I absolutely do not believe the old adage, “Sticks and stones will break my bones, but words will never hurt me.”
Today, in the world we live in, words can most certainly break us. I should say, negative words can break us, if we allow them to have that power over us. And we often do allow them that power.
Have you ever received a compliment from someone that starts with, “Now this is a compliment…” You know immediately that whatever follows will most certainly not be a compliment. A few weeks ago after teaching (and rocking) a few songs in a friend’s Zumba class, someone came up to me after class and said, “Now this is a compliment…you are such a pretty girl, but you look so much better with your hair tied back and not in your face.”
On that particular day, I was having a good day, so I smiled, said thanks, and laughed it off in my head. Well, actually in my head I said, “Awhhh, thanks so much and you look so much better with your mouth shut.” (Hey, I’m not perfect!)
I didn’t allow those words to rule the rest of my day or week. BUT how many times do we allow words to ruin us.
How many times do we allow words to take us off course or totally wreck our confidence?
Enough is enough.
Hawk Nelson has an awesome song called Words. Check out the entire song here: Words.
Here is my favorite part of that song:
“They’ve made me feel like a prisoner, they’ve made me feel set free. They’ve made me feel like a criminal, made me feel like a king. They’ve lifted my heart, to places I’ve never seen. They’ve dragged me down back to where I began. Words can fill you up. Words can break you down. Start a fire in your heart or put it out. Let my words be life, let my words be truth. I don’t wanna say a word, unless it points the world back to you.”
We can control how we speak to other people.
We can control the words we speak to ourselves.
We need to stop the negative thoughts floating around in our head.
Have you said any of these things to yourself either in your head or out loud?
“I’m a bad mom (dad, friend, sister, etc.).”
“Nothing ever goes right for me; I failed again.”
“I’ll never reach that goal or dream.”
“It’s too hard.”
“I’m just not good enough.”
“Susie is so much better at this.”
Enough is enough!
Speaking life needs to start at home. We are our home. We need to speak life to ourselves every day. We need to stop those negative words of doubt, anxiety, fear, and failure. We need to crush those negative seeds in our head before they have any chance to flourish and kill our confidence and significance.
Just this week I got an email that I allowed to get in my head. It was regarding the business I’m working on building. Someone more or less said “no” to me and I allowed myself to translate that no into “I don’t think I can do this,” “everyone will say no,” and “I don’t want to annoy my friends and family.” I felt the negativity and self-doubt threatening to take over, but I thankfully made it through with persistent prayer and perspective.
How easy it is to allow yourself to race down that rabbit hole!
Enough is enough.
Today, I took an index card and wrote several affirmations on it that I plan to say out loud to myself every day, several times a day. I taped it to my bathroom mirror, so I will see it as soon as I wake up and throughout the day. I will speak those words of life to myself every day!
I will speak those words to myself, because I am loved. I am cherished. I am enough. And I’m human, so I need to be reminded.
I challenge you to do the same! Grab an index card. Write down affirmations to yourself. Put your index card in a place where you’ll see it throughout the day. Proclaim those words out loud to yourself, because you are loved, cherished, and worth it.
You are enough.
Your affirmations may be about attributes you are working on, how you treat other people, your role as a mother or wife, about your business or job, or about any other place in your life that you need to shine some light with your positive thoughts and words.
Here are some great examples from Joyce Meyer’s book, Change Your Words Change Your Life if you need a place to start:
“I do not have a spirit of fear, but of power, love and of a sound mind.”
“I do not speak negative things.”
“I am a positive encourager. I edify and build up, I never tear down or destroy.”
“I am a believer, not a doubter.”
“I have compassion and understanding for all people.”
Let’s speak life to ourselves and others.
Toby Mac’s song Speak Life offers more encouragement. Click here for the song: Speak Life.
PS: Doesn’t “ENOUGH” totally look weird spelled in all caps?
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