Have you ever complained that your life is void of spontaneity? Have you grumbled that your spouse just isn’t as romantic as he used to be?
When my boys were just a few months old I read a book on baby sleep habits. One thing I’ll always remember from the book is, “sleep equals sleep,” which meant the more rest baby gets throughout the day during naps, the better baby will sleep at night.
I got to thinking; it is kind of the same with romance in a marriage. Romance equals romance, which means the more romance you put into your relationship, the more you will see reciprocated. This may not be true for every relationship, but it is for mine. When I go the extra mile to be thoughtful with my husband, it is always reciprocated in surprising and sweet ways.
I’m not talking about anything extravagant, expensive, or complicated….it’s the simple things that really seem to add up in a relationship.
So, my challenge is, instead of complaining about how your marriage is lacking of romance, DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT. Turn up your romance game!
PS: I’m generally not into cheesiness. I’ve been known to roll my eyes at Anne Gedde baby pictures and I only call my hubby things like “snuggly-umpkins-muffin-bear-sugar-lover-face” with strong sarcasm, BUT I also think a good dose of CHEEZINESS once in a while is good for the soul….and makes you feel flirty and like kids again! Cheeeziness makes you laugh and don’t we all love to laugh!!
So, feel free to order extra cheese on these dates!
- Week One: The Love Fort (Please pronounce “love” in a super cheesy voice….LUUUUUV):
- Build a fort out of blankets in a spare bedroom or other room where your hubby won’t see it. Fill the fort with lots of blankets and pillows. (Kids can play in the fort by day!)
- Send your hubby a text invite him to join you in the “Love Fort” at a specific time.
- Before the “Love Fort” date, cut 10 small hearts out of paper. On each heart, write down something you love about your hubby. Write down the first things that come to your mind. Tell him you love his eyes or how hot he looks all dressed up for work! Be creative!
- When date time arrives, retreat to the “Love Fort” with your heart notes to wait for hubby. Play some music on your phone and turn on your flashlight app for some mood lighting.
- Share the 10 hearts with him and seal each one with a kiss! Embrace the cheesiness….it’s fun!
- Week 2: Dessert Picnic
- Make or buy a favorite dessert; grab your fave adult beverage.
- Lay out a blanket in a lesser-used place of the house. Light some candles.
- Enjoy a dessert picnic after the kiddies go to sleep. Talk about your bucket list!
- Week 3: Breakfast Surprise
- Have a date before the kids wake-up!
- Get up a tad early and make coffee and breakfast. You could make something special or just have cereal together!
- Put on some “pump you up for the day” music and light some candles. What the heck, sneak in a dance too.
- Talk about 5 things you are each thankful for today.
- Week 4: Redneck Dinner
- Set-up a folding table and chairs in your driveway. The neighbors really got a kick out of this when we did it. My husband got home from work and slowly opened the door and asked with a smile, “Um, honey, why is there a table in our driveway?”
- Prepare the table with a candle, plates, silverware, wine, and wine glasses.
- I prepped all of the food inside and had it ready on a tray, which I took outside when my hubby got home. Make whatever you want for food; I just made sandwiches with veggies and fruit on the side.
- We had the kids eating with us too and they got a kick out of the change of scenery. When they were finished, they played in the front yard and my hubby and I scooted closer and sipped our wine with smiles!
- Week 5: Time Capsule
- Grab an old shoebox and fill it together with classic time capsule goodies.
- Ideas to include: a current newspaper, a few photos of you together and with the kids, a little list of current things like stamp and gas prices, what your kids are into at this stage, where you are at in life (work, vacations, family happenings), etc.
- Also write a little love note to your spouse, but don’t read each other’s!
- Seal up the box and mark it with the “do not open until” date. Store the box somewhere you’ll forget about it for a while (or bury it if you’re feeling energetic)!
Good luck romancing! Just try something different; do something to get out of the funk of life and LAUGH LAUGH LAUGH!!
I look forward to hearing your ideas on other fun dates and your experiences from the above 5 weeks of romance!
Shadow photos by Katie Frank.